That moment you come home from work and are in a hurry you have to be somewhere in 30 minutes and it takes 30 minutes to get there! You had asked your husband out of respect if he wanted to ride with you and he says yes but when it you home to get him, he has to eat first the pizza had just arrived. You’re trying to remain calm so you don’t start a fight, but whenever he gets in the car he starts one!
He’s stressed over money while I’m getting packages in the mail almost every day I’m buying Christmas for everyone he wants me to pay his bills on top of mine(he makes double of what I make they have cut his overtime). He never helped me pay mine when I didn’t even have a check coming in, and the rear brakes are rubbing bad against the rotors so you get yelled at for that and get told you have no common sense! He knew the brakes were bad! He just doesn’t take the time to talk to me or check out the car.
I get told how nasty in the inside is which I reply with “well….on Sundays you clean out your truck and your daughters car but always neglect mine”. When I’m informed that I’m never home well…I point out the days that yes I am home he’s just not doing cars that day and waits til I’m gone! When I tell him that he needs to stop being a jerk I’ve done nothing to him, he tells me to stop being a cunt! He says this in front of our daughter! The fight last the whole drive there.
Thank goodness it was silent on the way home! I know that he is stressed but none of that was called for! And it’s very upsetting that he has yet to help me with my bills yet he is expecting me to help him! And I’ll have to or else he will be hateful and mean and start fights everyday! His demons will run a muck all through him causing him more pain! I just hate it! I hate that our daughter has to hear all of the fighting!
I remember going through that as a child and I remember putting distance between me and my dad! He thinks that I drive a wedge between him and her but when she hears how awful he talks to me and her most days that’s on him not me! I mean her and I talk I’m her mom and her safe space but you can’t call your wife the “c” word among other things and expect a child to not put space between you and them!
Whenever times get hard I tell him that it’s all going to be okay that we are going to get through it! Well he informed me that I have to stop saying that because it doesn’t help! I told him the difference between me and him was that I have faith in God while he does not! He’d rather pout and worrying than trusting God. If he’d take a look at our past troubles he’d see that God never left our side!
I know God will bring us through all things! He has too many demons! He just won’t shut them up! You can’t let the devil live rent free in your head! He doesn’t provide for you or pay you rent! He may strike deals that sound to good to be true but it’ll cost you! May cost you your life! But God now He does provide for you and He doesn’t expect anything in return except your love! He sent His son to die for us! We owe Him nothing!
My husband doesn’t want to face the fact that he is not the person he thinks he is! He’s not loving, doesn’t show love, talks rough even if he doesn’t mean to, he is rude most of the time! But don’t you dare treat him the way he treats you! The devil will stir up inside him and hell will have no furry! People who don’t want to get close to God and read His word are worried that they will have to face their fears and see things about them that they won’t like!
Trust me! I’ve been there firsthand myself! It was very brutal for me! But I got through it! You can’t tell a narcissist where they are failing you! I’ve made that mistake too! Which brings me to the name of this site! Love him through it! They won’t make it easy! But God…God sure will help you do it and bring you through it!!
