Have you ever had those days where everything has been great! No petty fights, no death glares, no attitude. It’s been a great week and even your spouse notices that you have been nice and not grumpy after you come home from work. That’s how my week has gone.
Probably one of the smoothest weeks we’ve had in a long time. It’s funny how it can turn on a dime! Rose and I had gone this to her therapy appointment Saturday morning and got home around 9:15ish. I made her something to eat then made myself something to eat. I sat down to eat and Clayton asked me what I was eating and I told him spam and eggs(gross to most of you I know) I asked him if he had eaten and if not I’d make him something but he told me he had ate. Okay great I left it alone. We went to check the corn and deer stand, we got ready to go and Rose and I went inside my dad’s house and got something to drink.
We took extra for that night I mean it’s my dad who doesn’t take a little extra when you leave your parents’house. I gave water to my grandson because he had ask for water. I didn’t bring Clayton out anything because he had a drink in the truck. He acted okay. Now little do I know I’m stacking up anger points as the day goes on! We got home and unloaded the truck everyone started doing their own thing. I was snacky so I made me a BLT with leftover bacon and lettuce and tomato.
He was trying to set something up on his phone and was getting frustrated. I did the right thing and asked if I could help or if he was hungry. Of course I couldn’t help but he was fine! I made some offers on food but he didn’t want anything. At this point and after all this time together you would think that I would pick up on the clues but nope not me! I’m as clueless as a mouse trying to steal some cheese! I did warm him up with some spinach dip and he ate that.
Now I know that wasn’t enough for a man who is diabetic but I offered a lot of different things he’s just picky! So I just let him figure it out! Well, Rose and I had a birthday party to get to so we just left and went on with our day! I’m not going to let him bring me down or ruin my day! When we returned home Clayton came into the bathroom where I was getting ready for bed and he said “you really didn’t bring me home any food?” My reply was simple “if there would’ve been any left over then yes I would’ve!” This is the moment that Clayton fell apart on me! He brought up breakfast I had made for myself, the drinks that I brought out to everyone but him, the BLT that I had made myself and didn’t make him anything!
I calmly remind him that I had offered to make him breakfast but he said that he had eaten, I also reminded him that he had a drink in the truck and I didn’t know that it was almost empty and I also remind him that I offered him something to eat it just wasn’t anything he wanted! And at anytime he could use his words like a grown man instead of a pouting child and tell me what it is he wants and I was happy to make it for him! Clayton then asked me if there was any leftover bacon and I said yes because I didn’t eat it all.
Well he couldn’t find it and when I looked where I put it, well it was gone. I guess Addi may have thrown it out when she put the groceries away. So I handed Clayton a brand new package of bacon to open and he refused! HE REFUSED!! I just couldn’t believe my ears that he was hungry and wanted the two day old bacon over the new pack! Talk about frustration! I was past that point! So I said “well if you want to act like a 3 year old not getting their way go ahead! I can’t help you till you stop being foolish!” He came into the bedroom and laid across the bench and the foot of our bed. I don’t know how long he laid there maybe 30 or 45 minutes! Everyone had went to their own rooms and I went in to check on him! I was asking him if he was down being foolish and if he wanted me to find him something to eat and Clayton would not respond! Which upset me! You don’t ignore someone who is trying to help you since you won’t help yourself!
So he tries to get up and is struggling, so I put my hand under his arm to get him in to upright position. I’m asking him if he is okay, no response! Then he tries to stand and is stumbling around like he has no strength! I can tell that it is all an act! I know that sounds harsh but I know my husband and this was just that an act! He thinks and feels like he was neglected so this is my punishment! I get him up and out the door to the kitchen where he begins to eat some sweets and I’m getting out the new bacon and cooking it up to make him some biscuits!
I’m just fuming at this point but trying to stay calm! I told him that his actions were childish and there was no reason for his behavior and ignoring me while was trying to talk to him and that next time his on his own if he can’t act like a grown man! Clayton said that his blood sugar dropped and that when that happens your speech is the first thing to go! Well, y’all I wish I had video I could post of how often his “blood sugar” drops when he refuses to eat just simply because he didn’t like what was for supper or it wasn’t what he wanted!
So I know that he was just being over dramatic due to this not being the first time he has pulled this! As soon as I made him something to eat he was back in action like nothing ever happened! I know diabetics who don’t take care of themselves and they don’t act the way Clayton does! He doesn’t take care of himself, he doesn’t check his blood sugar. Now he doesn’t just over eat and he knows when he’s had too much sweets and he does take some over the counter pills that help level out his A1C but still, the way he was acting was not real! Again I know that sounds harsh but I know my husband! Before he was diabetic when we would fight he would act the same way! So it’s never changed!
